This week’s assembly tackled the difficult topic of pornography- its addictive nature and the prevalence of it in our culture and even our church. Mrs. Slaa started her presentation by sharing a video that tells the story of Garrett Jonsson. You can watch the video here.
Following the video, Mrs. Slaa discussed the definition of pornography and shared some statistics with the students (e.g. 64% of people aged 13-24 actively seek out porn on a weekly basis). Much of this information can be found on the website www.fightthenewdrug.org, along with more information about how to help combat this addiction.
An addiction to pornography is much like an addiction to a chemical drug. Watching porn releases chemicals in the brain which causes the brain to rewire and ultimately forms a dependency. And like other drug addictions, there are serious negative effects caused by a dependency on porn, things like divorce, lack of real relationships, job loss, and depression. Pornography addictions are also becoming more common among females, and can often be linked to sexual assault and sex trafficking.
Often, the process looks like this: a person (sometimes as young as 8 or 9 years old) stumbles across pornography accidentally. They proceed to Google a few things out of curiosity, then eventually start seeking things out regularly. Some will begin to notice the impact and try to quit, but many will relapse.
The world tries to tell us that watching porn is normal, that it’s healthy even! But the Bible tells us a different story. It tells us to flee from sexual immorality (2 Tim. 2:22). It tells us that things like porn are idols in our lives, and we need to put it to death (Col. 3:5). And it also gives us hope. 1 Cor. 10:13 assures us that God will ‘provide a way out’ when we are facing temptations.
What are some ways that God might provide help? There are practical things like ad-blockers and internet filters that can do a lot of good. Use helpful resources like ‘Fight the New Drug.’ Having a trusted friend to pray with you and hold you accountable is an extremely valuable practice. And pray, at all times, in the Spirit, for yourself and for others (Eph. 6:18).
Discussion starters for conversation with your teen:
- Have you ever accidentally seen something pornographic online? If so, how did that affect you?
- Do you think this is a problem with your friends? Is there peer pressure in this area? E.g. on social media, on the bus, etc.
- What are some of the ways that I (your parent) can help you in this area?